Charlie’s english teacher, who he calls Bill in his letters, said this to him when he asked why his sister picked such a terrible boyfriend to date. This quote is all about self concept. If you see yourself as small and unworthy, you are going to be with someone who sees you the same way. If you love yourself and acknowledge your self worth, the person you love will do the same. It all comes back to loving yourself first. When you do, you can build such healthy, positive relationships that make you feel even better.